Varying Sentimentalism: Positive & Negative

I have these 2 pitchers that are glass and rattan that were given to me by a less than nice person during a remission phase (of his .. he was trying to change ... as it turned out, the leopard doesn't change its spots.  That, however, is a different story).  I look at these and wonder, if I mosaic in between the rattan, while I know it will change the entire look of the pitchers, will it change what they represent?

How is it that things given to us by others, tend to represent the phases of our relationship with that person?  If the relationship was negative, the thing has negative connotations & we wish to smash it, flatten it, melt it down or change it (point and case, the wedding band that was my ex-fiancee's, who was an abusive jerk, I melted down and turned into a cocktail ring for me .... again, a different story for a different day).  If the relationship was positive, we tend to want to treasure the object years after the relationship is gone.  These are simply objects.  Innate entities that are usually synthetic and were probably created by random underpaid humans in Malaysia.  Why do we place so much sentimentalism on them .. in either direction?  Logically, it makes no sense.  However, We Do.

I think I'm going to go mosaic those rattan & glass pitchers now .... maybe creating a bit of positive change, then throwing them on Esty and creating some positive cash will truly change them in my mind!  

~The Girl In The Little Black Dress

A Fairy Tale of Theory

Once upon a time, there was a girl / a chick / a female / a princess, who just wished to understand life.  She sat and pondered / climbed to the top of the highest precipice / waited in a stupidly high tower for enlightenment, until she determined that ...

A. Newton's Law of Physics that states "for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction" applies to not just the physical, but also the metaphysical
B.  Just because things don't turn out exactly as you would have wished them to, doesn't mean that there isn't something positive somewhere in the clusterf#&ck of the outcome
C.  That hidden positive thing in the aforementioned outcome could possibly better than what you originally wanted or imagined
D.  If it didn't take a bit of hard work, "elbow grease", pain & suffering at some level, and sacrifice to get to what you ultimately want, you wouldn't appreciate the true value of it regardless.

... and she lived Happily Ever After.  The End ... or is it the beginning?


~ The Girl In The Little Black Dress

A Bulleted Overview of Recent Epiphanies

There have been so many moments over the past 2 weeks that I've wanted to write, but circumstances have simply prevented it.  Not every moment is opportune for posting in a blog .... but of course you know that.  I think that now I will compile it all into one succinct, bullet point moment.

• Tears have so many levels.  They can be surface level & sight provoked, like at a movie that moves you.  They can be provoked by happiness, like when you're so proud of a performance by your child you could burst.  There are 10,000 levels in-between those too.  The most gut wrenching kind though, the kind that tear your very soul in pieces at even the sight of their appearance on someone else's face, are the kind that are brought on by the bottom of your heart grief & despair.  In those cases, even one single tear, can feel like a thousand, and provoke them from the most solemn of hearts.  I guess that's the purest definition of empathy.

• Why is it that nighttime ... the proverbial cloak of darkness .... why is it that those hours that are without daylight seem to make everything in life appear exponentially more intense?  Seriously.  Shouldn't thoughts or emotions or situations be able to be percieved the same during both daylight & nighttime hours?  It happens though.  Every time.  Illogical but true.

• Why do so many enormous gas-guzzling air polluting tanks of SUVs have license plates that state they're environmental lovers or national parks lovers people?  Isn't that rather contradictory?

• Amazing how a day can be so fantastic, so completely normal yet really rather happy, and then go to nightmare terrifying proportions in the fell swoop of one moment.  But in overview, the day in its entirety was not ruined or lost or made scary or bad.  Only those moments during and after the moment that changed it.  So, why then, does it seem to bring the entire day down?

• There is nothing so insane feeling as worry about one's child.  There's nothing you can do except be there for them, mentally, physically, medically, emotionally, but when things go awry due to injury or illness all you can do is watch & wait, hope, entertain them, and whisper prayers to whatever higher power you choose to believe in.  It is the most intense of emotions, yet the one a parent will always keep in check so their child will never know.  One of the biggest contradictions of life, yet one of the most seemingly necessary.  Protection, in that case, is simply everything.

As you may be surmising at this point, it's been a heck of a ride lately.  Looking forward to reaching that light at the end of the tunnel ... no way it can be another oncoming train.  

~ The Girl In The Little Black Dress

We Elected What?!

http://advocate.com/News/Daily_News/2011/09/12/NC_Lawmakers_to_Consider_Anti_Gay_Marriage_Amendment/

Something about this just makes my blood boil.  There are all of these people who claim to be proponents for the "betterment of society", but in reality, they're simply fighting against that which they have zero understanding and therefore it creates fear in their lives.  Fear that things will be different.  Fear that they will not be able to quantify their own self worth against something that, while it may be a new concept, may turn out to be a positive thing regardless of their lack of comprehension.  Family values are a lifelong commitment to a relationship, the absolute commitment to one's children, and the commitment to the betterment of society via one's example.  Key word here is COMMITMENT. 

I dare these idiots in politics to prove that they're Not just lukewarm with that concept.  In fact, the majority of people I've come across over the years in basic corporate america can't even say it without their noses growing.  And those who choose to spout Bible verses on this subject (not attempting to piss off my Christian friends here, but I am going to tell it as it is), well, the Constitution specifically calls for a "Separation of Church and State".  Religion of any form has zero place in politics in our country ... or so the founding fathers specified. 

Quit throwing stones and being judgemental, politicians.  That glass house that you shatter just might be your own.


~ The Girl In The Little Black Dress

Mantra

I WILL NOT get frustrated .... I WILL think positive thoughts about all things .... I WILL NOT stoop to the level of those I do not trust or respect .... I WILL focus on the good things in my life & ignore the annoying ones!

Momentary Mantra.  Had to write it.  Makes it more real & required to follow that way.

~ The Girl In The Little Black Dress

Circles

They say everything comes full circle.  I suppose many .. well, Most things in life do actually come full circle.  For those of you that now have The Lion King "Circle of Life" running through your head, that's not so much what I'm talking about .... although maybe the premises of the song lyrics have some similarities.  There's also the whole Karma thing to consider, and Karma tends to come full circle like a boomerang.  You put it out into the world ... it comes back to you in similar fashion.  Does that mean that every little mistake, every little bad decision, every time that we do something, that in hindsight was not the most brilliant of choices, does it mean that ultimately we'll have all those come back around to us in some cosmic form of repayment?  Logically speaking, the good stuff would then do the same thing.  So all those little good decisions, positive choices, moments where you simply do something that's positive for the earth and/or humankind as a whole and it doesn't occur to you at the time that you should receive anything in return in any form whatsoever, does it mean that those all come back around to us in a positive cosmic repayment of some form also?  Then could it also mean that, just like in math when you add the same positive and negative number together to equal zero, that similar levels of good and bad decisions / actions / moments would cancel each other out and create no cosmic intervention into life at all?  That directly contradicts when those who have made so many positive differences in others' lives have horrible things occur in their lives ... why?  Is it preordained?  Is it random occurrence?  As we delve deeper into the mysteries of genetics, are there certain genetic makeups or cellular structures or even just sets of pheromones that cause someone to be more likely to have these horrible situations occur in their lives?
I will say this, the only thing that seems to hold true is that if you continue to trudge through each and every day with anything and everything it brings, if you persevere through all situations, how you take those outcomes and what you ultimately do with them is what will follow you through life.  Positive or Negative.

~ The Girl In The Little Black Dress