Tuesday, June 25, 2013

The Complexity of Forgive

"Forgive & Forget". Such a difficult concept for so many, both in separate parts, and as a unit together.  The words "I forgive you" can be used and truly meant, but if the action or actions that were forgiven stay in our minds, or are brought up as examples in later discussions or arguments, were they really forgiven? Is true human forgiveness possible when we can't delete the memories from our heads?  Do we, as humans, honestly have the ability to completely forgive & forget all transgressions?

I do believe, have to believe, that in many ways it is possible.  I also believe that it depends upon the person.  There are those out there with an ego that is so self-righteous, for whatever reason, that they simply do not possess this empathetic capability, are doomed to judge everyone on their own personal terms, and will never let things from the past go. I pity them.

The harshest, most difficult "forgive & forget" I have found, however, is towards ourselves. Personally, I struggle with that one, even regarding the smallest of mistakes, every day. Again, even if you "forgive" yourself, is it possible to achieve the level of "forget" to where one does not berate themselves in their mind by past comparison? Difficult personal lessons ... I hope one day to learn them fully.

~ The Girl In The Little Black Dress

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