Life is a myriad of colors, shapes, situations, and perceptions. At the risk of sounding totally "new age", like the ocean tides that constantly ebb and flow, the only thing we can truly count on is constant change, and the only thing that we can truly control is our actions and reactions with regards to it.
Change is not necessarily a bad thing. The layoff from a job that's a hardcore stress point for the person offers the opportunity to find a career that's more fulfilling, the breakup of a relationship that's a negative influence in someone's life offers the opportunity to learn oneself and open themselves up to a supportive, positive relationship, the growth and flight forward into adulthood of a child from the nest of the home that has nurtured them through childhood offers them the opportunity to grow towards every ounce of potential that child has in themselves .. all of these changes, while initially scary for the individual experiencing them, have the potential to be positive ones.
To be honest, regardless of potential, change is always unnerving. Sometimes it's titillatingly scary, sometimes it's just plain nightmare level terrifying, but it's always some level of life driven scare tactic. Over the past year I personally have gone through life changes on multiple levels. From engaged and living with my fiancée to single and living alone, from in a relationship and stressed out to single and happy, from feeling secure about life to feeling secure about nothing. The old adage is that whatever higher power you believe in doesn't give you anything you can't actually handle. Malarky. That may ultimately be true, but to be honest, I've had multiple moments over the past year of not feeling like I can handle getting out of bed to handle anything, much less what some omnipotent being thinks I can pull off!
Change in general tends to bring about a combination of fear, excitement, misgiving, self-doubt, worry, anticipation, happiness, terror, nostalgia, melancholy, and exhilaration. It's kind of like what Ron says in "Order of the Phoenix", "one person can't feel all of that .. they'd explode!" Yet we don't explode. We somehow plod through. I suppose my point is this. While I truly believe that each of us is put on this earth to learn specific lessons and to live our lives for a specific purpose, most of us (me included) are generally so busy focusing on daily minutia that we forget to pay attention to all of that. All we really tend to pay attention to are the situations occurring immediately in front of us, when what we really need to pay attention to, are the ramifications of those same situations and how we could use those moments to move forward in a positive manner.
A friend of mine recently told me that he wakes up each day with the goal to accomplish something, laugh at something, and learn something. At base level for daily life, shouldn't that be the goal of all of us, regardless of whatever changes life throws our way? A positive mantra to utilize for your next waking moment.
~ The Girl In The Little Black Dress
Change is not necessarily a bad thing. The layoff from a job that's a hardcore stress point for the person offers the opportunity to find a career that's more fulfilling, the breakup of a relationship that's a negative influence in someone's life offers the opportunity to learn oneself and open themselves up to a supportive, positive relationship, the growth and flight forward into adulthood of a child from the nest of the home that has nurtured them through childhood offers them the opportunity to grow towards every ounce of potential that child has in themselves .. all of these changes, while initially scary for the individual experiencing them, have the potential to be positive ones.
To be honest, regardless of potential, change is always unnerving. Sometimes it's titillatingly scary, sometimes it's just plain nightmare level terrifying, but it's always some level of life driven scare tactic. Over the past year I personally have gone through life changes on multiple levels. From engaged and living with my fiancée to single and living alone, from in a relationship and stressed out to single and happy, from feeling secure about life to feeling secure about nothing. The old adage is that whatever higher power you believe in doesn't give you anything you can't actually handle. Malarky. That may ultimately be true, but to be honest, I've had multiple moments over the past year of not feeling like I can handle getting out of bed to handle anything, much less what some omnipotent being thinks I can pull off!
Change in general tends to bring about a combination of fear, excitement, misgiving, self-doubt, worry, anticipation, happiness, terror, nostalgia, melancholy, and exhilaration. It's kind of like what Ron says in "Order of the Phoenix", "one person can't feel all of that .. they'd explode!" Yet we don't explode. We somehow plod through. I suppose my point is this. While I truly believe that each of us is put on this earth to learn specific lessons and to live our lives for a specific purpose, most of us (me included) are generally so busy focusing on daily minutia that we forget to pay attention to all of that. All we really tend to pay attention to are the situations occurring immediately in front of us, when what we really need to pay attention to, are the ramifications of those same situations and how we could use those moments to move forward in a positive manner.
A friend of mine recently told me that he wakes up each day with the goal to accomplish something, laugh at something, and learn something. At base level for daily life, shouldn't that be the goal of all of us, regardless of whatever changes life throws our way? A positive mantra to utilize for your next waking moment.
~ The Girl In The Little Black Dress
